Stop Outsourcing Your Knowing: Learning to Trust Yourself Again
Return to the Quiet Knowing
There is something sacred about having access to wisdom. It’s rarely loud or certain.
More often it’s the soft hum beneath the noise, the quiet noticing of what feels right, or the whisper of what you already know to be true.
Yet how often do we hand that knowing away? We look to elders, partners, teachers, or strangers on the internet to validate what lingers in our hearts. It’s not wrong to seek guidance; wisdom can live in others too. But lately, I’ve been noticing a shift….a slow leak of surrender of our own compass to the loudest voices around us.
Of course, there are times to bring in expertise. If my car engine failed tomorrow, I wouldn’t attempt to repair it myself; I’d call someone trained to diagnose and fix it. But when it comes to the intimate movements of our own lives, our choices, our direction, our soul’s nudges, there are no experts outside of us. We cannot outsource what our soul knows to be true.
Why is trusting our inner knowing so hard?
I’ve asked myself this more than once. We live in an age of immediacy - infinite information at our fingertips, voices arriving faster than we can discern. Everything is urgent. Texts stack on voicemails. Calls follow emails. Opinions flood our feeds before our own thoughts can even surface.
It is too much.
And in the midst of that rush, something precious is being lost: discernment.
With artificial intelligence accelerating the speed of information even further, our task now is not simply to consume, but to pause. To ask:
Is this good for me?
What is this trying to teach me?
Whose agenda is shaping this message?
These are not paranoid questions rather they are the foundations of critical thinking. They’re how we return to ourselves.
We live in a remarkable time. But our access to everything must never cost us our access to our own wisdom. Reclaim your stillness. Listen to the quiet within you. Let your soul lead the way.
Because wisdom is not something we find. It is something we cultivate.
It grows through lived experience, through the courage to ask our own questions, through the willingness to see ourselves clearly.
True wisdom comes from living, from failing, from trying again and from trusting the quiet voice that rises when the world falls silent.
So I invite you to look at how you filter information through yourself. How often do you pause before reacting, before believing, before deciding?
What would shift if you began teaching yourself to rely on you? To listen to your own rhythm first, and the world second?
This is how we reclaim wisdom:
By being students of life and teachers to ourselves.
By balancing curiosity about the world with deep trust in our inner knowing.
By walking each day with awareness, humility, and courage.
Wisdom is not out there waiting to be discovered. It is already within you, waiting to be remembered.
-xoxo,
Heather